Expections

What is the main goal in life? Money? Relationships? Historical achievements? I'm sure everyone has one, if not then you should have one to guide you to your desired future. Anyway, expectations. People usually have a standard that they expect you to achieve no matter how much effort that has been put into the matter which most commonly are parents. Different people have different expectations. Some higher, some lower and some who are just satisfied if you give it your all whatever the result will be. Setting an expectation is a way to motivate people to achieve what they want to be but if you set that expectation a bit too high, it will give a negative impact on the person.

For example, the story about the 15 year old girl whom committed suicide after placing SECOND in class that lately went viral on social media. Let me repeat that, she committed suicide after placing SECOND in her class during her SPM trial examination although she got straight A+ for all of her subjects. SECOND IN CLASS WITH STRAIGHT A+'s. STRAIGHT A+'s. AND SHE COMMITS SUICIDE BECAUSE OF HER FATHER'S OVER-EXPECTATIONS. First of all, she got straight A+'s for her trials. As if A's weren't good enough, her father is still not satisfied with her straight A+'s. What else do you want from her? 100% for every subject? Not even a normal human being is able to do such thing. Just because you made her follow your 'perfect' principle, it doesn't mean she will be perfect. Nobody is perfect and that is fact that will never change.

Beside that, you force them to achieve YOUR goal in life which is to be the best in the field and to make a name for YOURSELF by using your daughters. Everyone should have a right to carve their own future. Parents should give their full support to their daughters/ sons and should give them motivation to achieve their goal and not force them in any way shape or form to selfishly achieve THEIR goals in life. Furthermore, you literally took her life away from her before she did it herself by forcing her to only study and nothing else. Even when she tried to make you happy by baking a cake with her sweat and tears for your birthday, you just told her that she was wasting her time and ordered her to go back studying. What was even worse was you wouldn't even acknoledge your daughter if she did not reach your expectations. By the time you regreted your actions, it was already too late. It took her life to wake you up from your dream. So, all I just want to say is that expectations are the way to go BUT do not set over-expectations as not everyone is able to achieve it. If you do not achieve your expectations or anyone else's expectations, do not give up hope on life but try to improve on it. Life is a long journey that you will encounter ups and downs along the way. So, don't think it's the end of the world if you do not reach expectations from anyone or yourself. I'm sorry if this was a rant but I just had to. Thank you and have a good day :)